That’s something that I’ve been telling myself a lot lately. So many days the laundry goes unfolded, the dishes pile up in the sink, I’m still in pajamas when Derrick gets home from work, and dinner is eaten out of a cereal box rather than from the stove. It’s hard raising twins. It’s hard raising children, one or more, period. But I am doing the best that I can.
Being a stay-at-home mom is not an easy task, especially when the days are turning cold, runny noses are flowing, and little tummies are churning. So, we all just do the best that we can. And that’s ok. Too often, we do NOT hear how much we moms are appreciated. Corbin and Lynley can’t express that. They need me. They wouldn’t survive without me. I know that I am doing a good job, but I’d like to hear it more from others. Wouldn’t you?
So, when you hear negative things from other moms or older women or men, who you know have been there, it stings deep. I was out shopping recently for new bed sheets, and I am never surprised by how many people come over to look at the babies. I have my candid responses, and not much throws me off because I usually get all of the same questions.
Until I got this comment,”Oh honey, you look tired.” Umm, excuse me?? You meant to say, “they must wear you out.” Right? That would’ve been a much nicer way at pointing out that I did not have time, nor did I feel like, applying my under eye concealer or mascara that day. I zipped out of the house with no more makeup than a light dusting of face powder and lip balm carrying two fussing babies. I’m doing the best that I can, and that’s what I should have said. Or, I could have said, “Then I must be doing my job!” But, I just meekly said, “Yes, I am tired.”
My outer appearance might be a little disheveled some days; my house may be a mess on most days; and we may eat cereal for dinner twice a week often. But, my heart is full. My babies are happy. We as a family are happy. We’re healthy. That’s all that matters. We’re doing the best that we can.
“My house may be a mess most days; we may eat cereal for dinner twice a week. But, my heart is full.” Click to tweet
Let’s encourage each other more. I challenge you to compliment a mom that you see out and about. Don’t just tell her how cute or smart or well-behaved her children are, but say something nice about her, even if it’s just complimenting her shirt. Or go a step further, and tell her she’s doing a great job because we all need to hear it every now and then, and chances are you will turn her day around!
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
“Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day” 2 Corinthians 4:16 Click to tweet
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Kimberly Munoz says
Great Post!! I always have to bite my tongue when other moms are quick to comment on the negative first. A little compliment goes a long way with a tired mom!
Steffany @ Spit and Sparkles says
Thanks for the comment! Glad you enjoyed the post.
Katrena says
She probably didn’t mean it rudely….just observing.
Steffany @ Spit and Sparkles says
You’re right, she probably didn’t mean it the way I took it. But I’ve never taken well to that comment!
Megan Schlueter says
As a fellow twin mom – I know the amount of people that come and talk to you, and know that some people just need a mute button when it comes to the stuff they say. But what I also know, its hard work getting out of the house with two… and you were out! Not taking the easy way. So you are doing your best, and your best is pretty darn good!
Steffany @ Spit and Sparkles says
Thanks Megan! I really appreciate your sweet comment.
Diann Brodnax says
I AM EXTREMELY PROUD OF MY BABY GIRL!! YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB! <*>
I LOVE YOU!
Mommy (aka Nanner)
(BTW … did you get her name? I think I need to have a “talk” with her?! ) 😉
Steffany @ Spit and Sparkles says
Hahaha! Thanks mom!
Angelique Ouellette-Tower says
Thank you for networking with us on the CLIMB!
Angie
http://www.godsgrowinggarden.com/
Kathryn says
This post is so true! I am also a SAHM to twin girls and there are some days I want to pull my hair out! It’s tough having 2 babies the same age! But I’ve learned to just accept that I may not do things like another Mom but I do the best I can and as long as my family is happy we are good!! your kids are adorable! New to your blog so wanted to say hi!
Kathryn
Erikandkathrynburton.blogspot.com
Steffany @ Spit and Sparkles says
Great, positive outlook! Thanks so much for visiting!
Stacey Gannett says
What a wonderful post! I am blessed to say that I do thankfully hear it from my kids, but they are 11, 14, & 20…old enough to know and say so. And I know the hubby does, but he could say it a bit more. Thanks so much for sharing on This Momma’s Meandering Mondays! Have a great day!